My Mom Lashes Out on Me?
okay, so my mom lashes out on me very often, like at least once a week, over things that seem too small to get so worked up about. just today she and i were taking out like 2 months worth of garbage (we forget 
). she was speaking to me in a very demanding tone and i didn’t want to start a conflict so i just helped her in any way she asked. however after about 10 minutes of putting up with it i was getting agitated. she told me to put away a set of tree pruners that i had used to cut down the vines on her decent sized grape terrace which she had asked me to do about 3 days ago. i had placed the pruners on put back door porch out of the rain and forgotten about them until tonight. so just as we think we are done with all the garbage we find one more bin of recycling of the porch which she tells me to take out. immediately after telling me to do that she tells me to put the pruners back in our garage and i flat out say no. she says what?? i say i pruned all those vines for you, pulled them down, and hauled them off at your whim, the least you could do is help to put the pruners back. the fight continues that way for a few minutes and concludes with her putting them away and her going back on her word.(we had an agreement that i was to stay home from school tomorrow b/c im not doing anything important, its the day before thanksgiving, and I’ve been sick for several days) so all in all i think she is just lashing out on me because the is stressed from work. what can i do to help calm her down?
im 17 and shes 51, could it be menopause?
@ Ann My parents have been divorced for 10 years.
hey she’s your mom. And she’s probably going thru menopause. have more patience with her and be understanding. Hey look on the bright side, u will be 18 soon and you can move out
Hey, so I’m the same age and my mom is the same age too lol.
It could DEFINITELY be menopause, which causes much emotional distress. if it is, theres nothing you can really do but be understanding as annoying as that may be. Otherwise she might just be stressed out over something that doesn’t have to do with you. At this point all you can really do is keep cool calm and collected and don’t fight back. If you do have a problem with her, say it in a polite way and don’t yell because that will just make things worse and make you grounded (trust me).
If things are REALLY bad then maybe you should tell her about it, like have a conference or something. I did that with my parents once and it was actually really helpful because I found out what I was doing that bothered them and they found out why I was acting so rude to them.
Goodluck and remember, in a year you can move out! Thats what keeps me going some days lol
Where is your dad? It seem your mom is overwhelmed.